4 Steps to Attract Your Soulmate and Manifest True Love

There has been an increased interest in manifestation and attraction, whether it's the quality of life you want to lead or the person of your dreams. The scientist and future clinical psychologist in me must tell you that to attract a soulmate, one must mirror or complement the qualities one seeks to find in a soulmate. Similarly, knowing how to articulate the qualities you desire and communicate your capacity to love is crucial. In other words, when you are ready to attract a soulmate, you should be able to explain your love languages, how you need to be loved, how you show up in a relationship as a partner- what roles you assume, what characteristics you possess, and those areas where you need support.

Attracting a soulmate requires intentional self-evolution and development and is not recommended until one knows, loves, and enjoys oneself.

Here are 4 steps to attract your soulmate and manifest true love!

I. Practice Self-Love!

Self-love is vital to a happy, healthy, and purposeful life. In prior posts, I have shared five components of self-love, 1) awareness, 2) acceptance, 3) esteem, 4) respect, and 5) compassion, each important when attracting a soulmate. So, let's look at each more closely.

Awareness and acceptance support attracting a soulmate because they speak to one's ability to understand, be accountable, and articulate one's needs in a relationship. Without awareness and acceptance, one may not know how to be loved or what qualities to change to support healthy engagements/interactions with others. When attracting a soulmate, this ability makes one much more attractive, as it illustrates intention and maturity.

Self-esteem is defined as a personal (subjective) opinion of oneself. It encompasses what one sees, feels, and values about oneself. Esteem speaks to one's ability to stand firm in accepting all aspects of oneself, even those things one may or may not change. When attracting a soulmate, esteem is exuded through assurance that signifies strength—the strength one needs to be authentic. This ability makes one much more attractive, as it illustrates the capacity to have and maintain a positive and healthy self-image. Qualities that support genuineness.

Self-respect refers to one's ability to control behavior responses and enforce boundaries. Being able to set boundaries and willing to maintain them speaks to the level of respect one holds. Similarly, self-control speaks to one's ability to be rational and considerate of the consequences of one's actions. When attracting the soulmate, this ability makes one much more attractive, as it illustrates one's capacity for emotional intelligence.

Lastly, compassion allows us to express the empathy we tend to lend to others toward ourselves. Recognizing one's humanity allows one to extend grace for the inevitable mistakes made. Whether or not those mistakes had ill intent, one deserves to grant grace (compassion) to oneself. Therefore, compassion should be exercised to free ourselves from antagonism and overthinking and to empower the need for improvement.

Collectively, each of these components illustrates practicing self-love. Self-love makes one a happy, whole, and gracious individual. Self-love also makes one much more attractive when attracting a soulmate, representing one's capacity for establishing and maintaining a healthy relationship dynamic. It suggests that one is not reliant on a partner for the love they can give themselves.

However, the absence of self-love creates an unhealthy relationship dynamic. Lack of self-love is the reason one may justify being treated poorly, abused, and enduring toxic relationships. One would also have a hard time trying to identify their worth in the absence of self-love. Therefore, it is crucial to be intentional about self-love when attracting a soulmate. You wouldn't buy a car with a broken engine, even though it looks good. So why attempt to attract a soulmate in the absence of self-love...

II. Be Authentic!

Authenticity rests in accepting things we can not change in others and knowing, acknowledging, and addressing the flaws that keep us from being the best version of ourselves. Noting this, it is safe to conclude that being authentic is a lot easier said than done. Especially when conditioned to assume certain standards of behaviors, gender identities, and appropriateness. The battle of going against the norm or expectation is challenging but rewarding. Being recognized for standing in truth is one of the best feelings. Yet, it is often few and far between for those who operate authentically. However, those who thrive in authenticity have something many others do not. First and foremost, peace and confidence, and second, actualized self-love. Through these, the burden of perception for standards of appropriateness does not matter. And it is the ability to operate within such that lends to peace of mind. Authenticity makes one much more attractive when attracting a soulmate, as it illustrates one's capacity for accepting oneself and the whole of someone else. Acceptance is a key to establishing and maintaining a passionate and healthy relationship.

III. Practice Gratitude!

Not one thing or human in this life is perfect. But as one evolves, one learns to appreciate differences and uniqueness. Similarly, one learns to recognize that one encounters situations and people uniquely matching energy, needs, and desires. And as one finds that unique match, there are expressions of gratitude.

Whether big or small victories or everyday needs are fulfilled, practicing gratitude is an attribute of the optimistic—one who finds positivity in every aspect of their experience. This quality attracts a soulmate because it speaks to one's ability to draw on the energy of a unique match with intrigue, passion, and acceptance. Those who practice gratitude are inclined to seek individuals who perceive and navigate experiences similarly. Being grateful for growth and development represents peace and satisfaction in and with life despite one's circumstances.

IV. Open but not Focused!

To be open to a soulmate, one must exude a quality of being receptive. Therefore, it is essential to understand that extreme focus dispels attraction when overly eager to pursue love and attract a soulmate. Those fixed on understanding attraction solely in the context of the term "law of attraction" may find this contradictory. But in my professional and spiritual opinion, the ability to attract, while it does require intentional effort, should not be situated in constant thinking, worry, and anxiety. In other words, set the goal and intention but do NOT fixate on the process or the events leading up to it. Operate as if it will come to you naturally and in due time. Therefore, being open means being ready to recognize and receive. But do not operate solely in anticipation of the arrival. As you wait for the manifestation, focus on individual goals, purpose, needs, and desires. Rest in gratitude, authenticity, self-love, and peace.

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